I am copying this from another part of the forum, but things have moved on since then!

Quick summary of my mother's situation:

Married my stepfather whose son was in a cult.

Stepson returned home to live with them twenty years ago, claiming his share of the inheritance from his dad there and then - never worked for anyone in all that time, but would find jobs for himself around the house, then charge his dad for doing them, charging 'thinking time'.

My stepbro gradually alienated himself from everyone in the town with his stalkerish ways and dodgy money-making schemes. Then when people got fed up with him, he bbecame all paranoid and assumed that my mother had been stirring things up. Would shout at her and bully her and eavesdrop in doorways. And kept asking his dad 'Where did we get this from dad?' about my mother's possessions.

His dad bought him a big camper van and trailer so that he could go around the country doing odd jobs for people etc etc. Stepbro thanked him, drove it into back garden, opened the bonnet and let it rust.

After a brief period of flirting with my mum, stepbro started snarling at her instead, glaring. He never got up before 4pm and that suited her. Fifteen years on he didn't get up until 7pm

He became obsessed with diet and diet books, particularly one by an Adele davis who thought you could prevent cancer with vitamin C. She died of cancer.

He started telling mum what she should be preparing in the kitchen and why she shouldn't cook what she was cooking etc etc. After over five years of this, she gave up using the kitchen and he took over preparation of the food. Her health started to deteriorate. He was still being awful to her and repeatedly asked her for money. For some years, she had walked to the end of her road to phone me because she thought he had bugged the phones in the house. I thought she was paranoid. Now I know she was not.

My stepfather broke his leg and was in hospital for months. During this time I began to realise all was not well with mum. However she was still lucid most of the time. She told me that my stepbrother was charging her ten pounds a day to go and see her husband - for months.

My grandmother died and stepbro kept on and on about how my mum was going to be a really wealthy woman etc etc. He got shiftier and shiftier and started playing games - the main one being that he started being nice to my mum, having been vile for the twenty years beforehand.

Had a series of huge rows with him just before Grannie's funeral. He kept trying to do me down to my family and wanted him and my stepfather to be in the funeral car and me not to be. My family told him to get lost! After the funeral, he abducted my mother and stepfather and disappeared for days. Refused to tell me where they were, refused to let me speak to them on the phone so in the end I had to call the police. Gradually I ended up talking to higher nd higher people - it became a manhunt, only stopping shy of retasking a satelite to trace his mobile! They said they would do it if I thought their lives were in danger but I said I didn't think he'd hurt them. In the end, they were found because the hotel called the police because of his behaviour - insisting that all three adults shared one meal. He was arrested and sectioned, twice and then followed a calm period with lots of meetings, setting up carers etc.

However, my stepfather refused to take out a restraining order on his son so sure enough, back he came. We are now two years on and he refuses to give us information that we ask for. He won't give us carers invoices so we cannot pay those bills. He won't tell us who the carers are, or let us speak to them without him there.

He has the house phone diverted to his mobile and will only let them speak to us using the speakerphone.

He records our calls.

He still goes by this odd diet book and I think keeps them on a vegetarian diet despite the fact they are not vegetarians.

He refuses access to friends and family, keeping them isolated.

He cuts out everyone from their lives who disapprove of him - and that is everyone! After finding out today that he had changed Mum's doctor again - without consulting or informing us, it made me mad enough to come online and start researching stuff - I now know who her new doctor is. He's tried changing banks, tried to get her POA changed, put pressure on her to sell the house she owns (my old home). The POA has managed to stop a lot of his games but there are always more. He changed her solicitor, her accountant, then last week tried to fire her solicitor, just because we had sent a less than flattering copy of a letter to the stepbro to him. Then he phoned solicitor back and asked him to repeat everything he had just said... evidently the recording equipment hadn't been working.

Won't let mum go to dentist, insisting pain can be controlled by chewing vitamin c tablets.

Won't give her prescribed medication.

Won't take her to medical appointments.

Won't allow social services access except one every three months for a planned 'tea'.

Mum's possessions have gone missing - jewellery, silver etc

He has admitted selling housesilver to get money...

Pressured his dad to change will and POA

Mum was not washed or bathed for a year until I managed to do it and then he had to prove that he could persuade her to let carers do it. She stank. Clothes were filthy. No underwear - wore tights instead of knickers. Had a two inch long little toe nail so couldn't wear shoes.

Teeth not brushed for  a long time.

repeatedly cancels or makes last minute excuses for why we cannot go over. Have had less than ten hours contact with Mum in lst two years

He won't let her drink her favourite drink, tea, because he says its toxic.

Asking history and details of remaining possessions of my mothers...

Does not pay any proportion of household bills

Needless to say, things are about to hit the fan again.

And who else wonders why the police weren't called the first time he denied social services access - with his history!

 - and the update is that he has tried to get our EPA revoked, an OPG investigation team are now involved but he refused access to us with their visitor. We are delighted that they have become involved - as long as our EPA remains with us as no-one else can understand how tricky and manipulative this man is. The problem is, that when you turn up at the house, it is warm and cosy and clean and calm - that their huan rights have been totally ignored seems not to matter.

N.B. I will be writing a book about this as the ins and outs of this case are so extreme, that it may well bring the publicity you need to the issue of elder abuse. Basically, I have to wait for the 'story' to end, as Mum could not cope with the press turning up at her door and it would put her in an even more dangerous situation with the stepfamily. When she is out of there and safe, the gloves come off...